Divorce is a scary, confusing time in a child’s life—no matter what the age. While it may not always come as a surprise, it can still alter a child’s world of what they believed to be true and good. Imagine being a child and then believing the people you love most in the world now ‘hate’ each other. Now add the feeling of having no control over what your own life and the uncertainty of what the future holds.
At Boehmer Law, we know what it can be like for children when their parents are going through a combative divorce. It is key to remember that children examine what you say, and they can feel your struggles as well. In the middle of having your family breaking up, it is easy to get caught up in your own life and not be aware of what is happening to your kids. Some kids act out, some kids shut down. Everyone reacts to the stress of this time differently. Watch for dramatic behavior swings or mood changes—these are big clues on what is going on in your child’s mind. Open the lines of communication in a ‘consequence free’ tone so your kids can talk to you about their hurt, anger, fears or whatever else is on their mind.
If you find yourself lashing out at your ex-spouse, be aware of your surroundings and be careful around your children. As we have suggested before, seeking the advice of a good family therapist is almost always beneficial. Remembering the impact of your emotions on your children may allow you to choose the time to break down, and to keep the adult issues between the adults. Kids never need to be the go-between parents as this puts them in the awkward position of potential misdirected anger being pointed in their direction.
If you need help with a divorce of family law matter please contact Boehmer Law LLC by calling 636-896-4020 for a free consultation visit. See how our St. Charles, MO divorce lawyers and Missouri family law attorneys can help you.
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